Finding the calm in the chaos...

Hi friends,

Let us talk today about the generation next, the young brigade. I had read this analogy in a what's app group and I remember we friends even had a discussion on it. It said that kids are like dogs, loyal and affectionate, but teenagers are like cats. It’s so easy to be a dog owner. I know it as I have one. You feed it, train it and boss it around. Yet it will put its head on your lap and gaze at you as if you are the world. Whenever you call, it will run to you with enthusiasm.

Then around 13, this adoring puppy turns into a cat. When you tell it to come inside, it looks amazed, as if wondering who made you the boss. Instead of following your every step, it just disappears. Whenever you reach out to ruffle its head, it twists away from you giving a blank stare. You not realizing that the dog is now a cat, think something must be desperately wrong. It seems so antisocial, so distant. It won’t go on family outings with you. Since you are the one who raised it, seeing its changed behavior you assume that you did something wrong. Flooded with guilt you redouble your efforts to make it behave, but everything just backfires. Isn’t it sounding familiar? Adolescence is not only transition of kids, but also us as parents.

My friend asked me just two days back, as to how I handle my elder kid. My answer is, I cannot handle him but can only try to understand him. And in this process my knowledge in graphology comes handy. At the age of 14, a child’s handwriting like his/ her character and personality is changing. Thus this becomes a perfect time to begin correcting undesirable traits in him/ her.

Yesterday I witnessed, a kid had put 2 cramped stars in-between the first and the last letter of his name as signature. Friends our handwriting is our actual personality whereas our signature is our persona, how we want the world to see us? When asked, he said he wants all to see him like a star and thus the stars in his sign. Can you get this; these kids know what they want, but are confused how to go about. I had to explain him that his name was his identity and that would make him a star. A lot of people embellish their signatures, but this can only add to confusion in their world. Teenagers inner problems clearly show up in their writing. So why wait till things go out of hand. Can’t we keep a regular check on our child’s behavior through his/ her handwriting analysis?

It’s all about, finding calm in the chaos, let’s do it!